Phil (of “Duck Dynasty”) brings us a topic - Marriage & Sexuality
There has been a lot of news about homosexuality as “Duck Dynasty” has opened up about their beliefs. I have never watched that show but I realize a lot of people do. As the issue gets murkier for many people because of legal homosexual marriage and the fact that many mainline denominations, including Evangelical Lutheran Church of America, have officially sanctioned homosexual relationships, one wonders where we are supposed to stand.
I think it is very helpful to first understand our God-given gift of sexuality. Human sexuality is one of the ways that men and women have been bound together in order that they may remain in union. They are meant to serve as a powerful bond, as God says in Genesis chapter 2, “It is not good for man to be alone.” This is one of the reasons why God created Eve, so that husband and wife would leave their fa-thers and mothers and cling to one another.
This clinging is a sexual union. “The two become one flesh.” This is also a new family with all kinds of other strong bonds—emotional, psychological, etc. Within this divine establishment of marriage, sexuality is blessed by God. In fact, there is no other facet of human life that has so wonderful and beautiful a seal as marriage, crowned by the most precious thing we know—procreation, life.
God loves life. That is why He sent His only-begotten Son to redeem the world, so that all who believe in him shall not perish but have eternal life. Since God loves life, he protects it with his commandments. In the Sixth Commandment, “You shall not commit adultery,” God prohibits anyone from disrupting, perverting, or destroying that which God has instituted and blessed: matrimony and sexual union. Outside of matrimony, God forbids sexual union. This includes “sleeping around,” adultery, and unlawful divorce (abandonment, desertion).
Therefore, when a man and a woman truly desire one another (and not just lust after one another) they should become married. Once married, husband and wife must confine their desires to one another. All of this is summarized by the explanation to the Sixth Commandment in the Small Catechism. The basis of sexuality is marriage. This is God’s design and commandment.
But our society has popularized a very different basis for sexuality. Sexual union is not determined by God’s joining of one man and one woman. Instead sexual union is determined by the desires of the individuals. If two people love one another and believe it is “right,” then they may have sex with one another. If husband and wife no longer wish to be married, they can easily obtain divorce. When the basis for sexual union is a person’s desires, then it is only logical that homosexuals should be able to act on their desires, too.
It has not escaped the attention of homosexual advocates that heterosexuals can be very hypocritical in their condemnation of homosexuality. Straight people, so they say, can do whatever they want, sexually speaking, while homosexuals cannot. And they are right about that. It is hypocritical. An utter failure in understanding sexuality, marriage, and family among heterosexuals has preceded and even paved the way for the homosexual movement.
Heterosexual perversion is just as wrong as the perversion of same sex attraction. We must not be hypocrites in our condemnation of homosexuality, but proceed in a deep spirit of repentance. We need to get the log out of our eye so that we can begin to see clearly. We need to learn and teach about marriage and encourage young people to enter into it. We need to encourage those who are in the estate of marriage to remain in it and be faithful to their spouse. Marriage is a vital, potent, lovely force. God has instituted it, protects it with his commandments, blesses it with new life. We must learn that sexuality is not just about gratification or entertainment. It is for fidelity, honesty, and love of one’s spouse rather than mere enjoyment for one’s self.
The Sixth Commandment is broken by whoever has lust for those whom God has not given in marriage. If we do not understand this as a disease that afflicts both those with the natural sexual desire for the opposite sex as well as those who are attracted to those of the same sex, then we cannot expect to be heard by those who are lost in homosexual desires and lifestyles. The devil delights in the darkness of guilt and shame, especially the type of humiliation that comes with sexual sins.
We must bring the light of God’s Word and blessing into this important area of our life. We must guide all people to the blessings of forgiveness. God heals sinners, even those who suffer from sexual perversion. The devil would like to take away all hope of ever changing, of ever becoming sexually pure. But he is a liar and a murderer. There is hope. Christ Jesus has come to defeat the devil and all his works and all his ways. Christ takes away our shame by forgiving us and gives us the sure hope of a good conscience before God. If this sin is weighing on you, I have been called by God to announce Christ’s forgiveness to the repentant. Don’t suffer alone, but seek the grace and protection that Christ gives through His Church, His ministers, and His people.